LIPS living

When life needs a recharge  I’ve given myself a year. A year to inspire myself. A year to see what new pathways can be created for  my life. A year to bring the things I love with me and throw the shit away. The last year has been horrible in a way that’s not visible….

5 days 5 minutes in nature & Mary

I submitted this to Womankind Magazine as part of their writing competition. I didn’t get selected but the process of taking time in nature each day, reflecting and writing was beyond therapeutic – it helped a grieving and healing time that’s still happening. Shit Mary – how long will it take before I don’t miss…

Eulogy to a passionate woman

Mary died at 10am on May 23rd 2016 and according to the calendar she has not been with us for 18 weeks. Damn and Feck – that’s over 4 months. It feels like 2 minutes and 2 millenia. There are things happening in my life that I really want to share with Mary – and I…

phantom friend

I’ve been trying to understand a very strange feeling that surrounds me ever since Mary died. It’s visceral and physical and envelopes the space of my life. Words can’t describe it so I was searching for a metaphor or analogy and yesterday morning it came to me. When people lose a limb they say that…

I miss you Mary

The loss of you is still raw and fresh. It’s like a hole in the world that will never be filled and my life has changed forever. Memories give me some layers of comfort but they feel like I’m looking through lace curtains and I can’t see you clearly anymore. I know you’re gone and…

retreat to move forward

When Mary went into the Wild Unknown of death 13 weeks ago, I went into the Unknowing. The Unknowing requires patience, a deep quiet internal listening and a weird kind of external antennae open to opportunity, serendipity and curious synchronicity. I adore complex patterns of information and ideas – teasing out and knitting connections and…

bear witness and hold the advice

There are a lot of things I remember in the last year of my dear friend Mary’s life. One of the ways we were such good friends was that we bore witness to each others struggles and held the advice in check – most of the time. When Mary was first diagnosed with leukemia she…

If I had 50 more years to live …

I love some of the gorgeous magazines that are created in Australia. John gifted me with 2 of my favourites today – Dumbo Feather and Womankind. Mary had subscriptions and we used to love reading the articles together and exploring ideas. Both magazines inspired me in many ways. I’m starting a creative reflection/writing challenge for…

The Why and How

” If we have our own why in life, we shall get along with almost any how.” Nietzsche
Dancing to a different drum isn’t always easy, particularly when the big drums of our culture seem to worship consumerism, technology and a kind of economic rationalism that kicks humanity to the curb in favor of financial profit for a small elite.

The loneliness of loss

I’ve never had anyone I loved die before. 3 months ago my best friend Mary died after all the crap that goes with leukemia treatments killed her. In January 2105 I returned to live in Oz after 22 years in Ireland. I left my beloved dog Coco behind with her new Mum and fabulous pack…

into the wild unknown

Tomorrow I farewell my best friend My wonderful Mary Del Casale died last Monday and I’m bereft. She’s gone into the wild unknown and exploring with the wonder she brought to her life. You can have a soulmate who isn’t your partner and Mary was mine so there’s a great big hole in the world…

inspire + perspire = not sure

Uncertainty as a motivator It’s bloody lucky that I’m drawn to the unknown because lately it’s become closer than a lover. If my life at the moment was an image it would look like a wild animal stepping gingerly across ground that could become quicksand or a path and each step could be the last….